By the 30 Year Old
The Struggle
Is
today the same as yesterday, last week, last year?
You've
heard it too many times.
"You
just need to be more disciplined".
You
have tried it all. Planners, positive reinforcement, rewards, punishment. You
have read books, talked to friends.
And
yet, you still do nothing.
Sometimes
you find the discipline, but soon enough, it disappears, hidden, gone like a
ghost in the night.
And
then the next day comes, and once again you find yourself perusing Facebook,
sending emails, and watching TV. But in your heart you know you want more.
You
know there is more to your life than this.
What
if discipline wasn't simply a magical gift some have and some don't?
What
if there were actual steps you could take that would drastically increase your
follow through?
What
if you could start being the person, you know you should be...
A
Day in My Life
So
over the past month I have been getting a lot of questions regarding
discipline.
Let
me share with you what my life entails.
Everyday
I wake up between 5 and 6 am.
I
write, I train, and I recommit each morning.
I
exercise 6 days a week, often train in Aikido 5 days a week, write at minimum 3
blog posts per week, study Japanese daily, reply to every email within 48
hours, read a book a week (on average), call my parents weekly, hang out with
friends multiple times per week, explore Japans beautiful temples, teach
English, take online courses, and most importantly I also play some video
games.
Now,
is when the appropriate response would be:
”Thanks
for telling me all the things you do in your day. That was really interesting.
Hey did I forget to tell you? You Suck."
Appropriate?
Yeah,
kind of.
But
not really.
It
would appear that is a lot of things to get done. And yes it is.
It
does require discipline to make that happen. But it is different then you
think.
The
Incredibly Irony
I am
not disciplined. I go into my house and I look at the floor. Yeah, I should
throw that bag in the trash... I'll do it later.
I'll
pay that bill tomorrow.
Taxes
suck balls.
Yet,
when it counts I get it done.
So,
lately I have been paying a lot of attention to what allows me to get things
done. Here is what I have concluded:
I’m
not disciplined, So I have to be disciplined.
How's
that for absurd?
Since
I lack discipline I have a variety of strategies and techniques that I use to
keep me focused everyday. If I was disciplined I wouldn't have to use all these
techniques.
In a
lot of ways I feel like a really bad math student who loves trying to be great
at math.
Since
it doesn't come natural I have to discover the exact process and steps to make
it happen.
Some
people are just naturally disciplined. I am not one of them.
I
have identified the thoughts and actions that allow me to be highly productive
on a daily basis.
I
want to share these with you today.
But
before I do that, I have to express one thing.
The
Power of Passion
Unfortunately
passion has turned into a buzzword that immediately turns people off. In fact,
you might have wanted to stop reading the second you saw that header. But here
is the simple truth:
Passion
creates a massive driving force.
Are
you more likely to do something that is fun or boring? You better know the
answer to this...
Passion
is crazy because not only does it make my life and work fun but it also gives
the insanely powerful foundation of intense and deep purpose.
But
I don't Know My Passion
So
let's say you don't know your passion. Does this mean you are SOL?
No!
Not at all. It simply means you need to start participating in things you like.
I am
a believer that we must "like" before we can "love".
So
when we step forward to discover our passion it makes sense to begin doing
things you enjoy and like. Start with "liking" and allow it to
naturally evolve into love.
So,
with that said let's move on, shall we :).
I
Practice What I Preach
Below
I share 11 strategies that allow me to be very disciplined.
My
policy at The 30 Year Old Ninja is that everything I share, I do. I don't
speculate. I know this stuff works - because I do it.
11
Ways To Increase Your Discipline and Get Things Done
1. I
have a very strong and deep purpose
In
everything that I do, I make sure I understand exactly why I am doing it. I
wake up everyday at 5am to write and train. But this isn't because I am Mr.
Discipine. It is because I have a very deep seeded reason for getting up.
I
have created a vision for my life, broken them down into goals, and then have
turned those into daily objectives. I know why I am taking action everyday.
Why
are you doing what you are doing?
Will
what you are doing right now get you where you want to be in 6 months?
If
the answer is "Yes" then keep doing it.
If
the answer is "No", it doesn't mean you need to stop it, but it does
mean you need to try and incorporate some activities that have the long term
impact.
2. I
have identified my most effective time of the day
Through
trial and error I have discovered that my mind is the most free and creative in
the early mornings. So I do most of my writing and big projects at that time. I
leave more straight forward tasks to the afternoons.
How
do you discover this? It's simple. Just identify your more challenging projects
and try to get them done at different times of the day.
But
make sure to give each time slot at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted time. If
you can't seem to focus for 30 minutes... Well, then this is obviously not your
most effective time of the day.
When
are you most effective?
3. I
start every morning with inspirational material
Every
morning, I wake up and immediately either watch an inspiring video or listen to
inspiring audio. What I listen to changes based on my current interests.
But
it always fires me up.
Sometimes
it deals with living a better life. Other times, it deals with becoming a
better writer.
By
the time 6 am comes around I am fired up and ready to take on the day.
Listening
to inspiring audio has changed my life, my attitude, and my sense of purpose.
We
are all vulnerable to burn out or just feeling tired. This is why I believe it
is so critical to take action everyday to find motivation. The power of doing
this everyday can be crazy powerful over time :).
What
are you doing to motivate yourself everyday?
4. I
have a consistent routine
I do
not have the discipline to follow through on a new and different routine
everyday. Instead, I spend virtually zero time thinking about "What should
I do?" Because my routine is very consistent. Especially when I first wake
up.
Everyday
I wake up, put on some inspiring audio, eat breakfast, train, then write.
It
is so consistent that it feels weird if I don't do this.
Do
you have a consistent routine every morning?
5. Once
a week I sit down and reflect on my process.
On
Monday mornings (it used to be Sunday for you long time readers) I sit down and
reflect on the previous week. I sit down and critically think about the
following 2 questions:
1)
What were my successes? Why was I successful?
2)
What things didn't I get done? Why didn't I get them done?
Then
I adjust my behavior based on what I learn. This alone has had a profound
impact. This allows me to learn from all my failures and successes. I repeat
those behaviors that lead to success and remove those behaviors that prevent success.
What
should you keep doing? What behaviors do you need to change?
6. I
set time aside where I refuse to do any work
This
recharges me. I do zero work on Sundays. This is powerful because it allows me
to completely recharge. I don't exercise, I don't train, I don't write.
I
play video games, read books, call people, and watch NFL football (yes, I just
purchased the package in Japan - greatest purchase ever!).
This
also gives me a time in the week where I know I will no longer do any work. It
is exciting and a time in the week I always look forward to. But I only look
forward to it because I have earned that time.
7. I
learn from my bad days.
Like
everyone, I have those days that I just struggle to get things done. I don't
get down on myself. Instead, I ask "Why did I struggle?" Sometimes I
gain some great insights.
Everything
I am sharing in this post was discovered because of my bad days.
At
the same time I have to throw this out there - there are days when there are no
reasons. Somedays I am just off. Don't think too hard about it but do try and
learn from those days that you struggle.
8. I
connect with other inspiring, disciplined people
At
minimum 3 times per week I talk with other disciplined inspiring people.
We
don't sit and talk about discipline - that would be boring! We discuss what is
happening in our lives. The very nature of this always inspires me. I love
talking to people who are making big things happen because it forces me to up
my game and it is inspiring.
Find
people in your life that inspire you and attempt to connect with them.
9. I
NEVER multitask.
Some
people claim to be great multi takers. I'm not one of them. I zone in on one
thing at a time and just do that. Only as of late have I started eating food
while on the phone (and even this is hard for me).
When
I write I give it my full attention. When it is time to train I solely focus on
training. When I am reading a book the TV and computer are off. Anything I do,
I give it my full attention.
Some
people claim they get more done with multi-tasking.
I’m
sorry but I don't believe them.
Yes, you
may enjoy multi-tasking and you may get things done this way. But this
doesn't mean that you are more efficient than if you focused on 1 single task.
It just means you like to multitask.
10. When
I can foresee a bad day I shift my focus to getting 1 major thing done.
There
are somedays that I can tell are going to be a struggle. When this happens I
don't call it quits. Instead I focus on getting one big thing done.
Somedays
we are just off.
So,
if I can get one big thing done on those days it is a huge game changer. Sometimes
this means taking a long run, writing a new blog post, or training for a few
hours.
What
is that 1 major thing you can focus on today?
11. I
play video games on Sunday.
Every
Sunday I sit down and play video games. How is this connected to discipline?
This
is an example of an activity that recharges me. I sit back relax, and just
enjoy the game. In doing this, when I wake up on Monday morning I feel more
refreshed and ready to take on the week.
We
have to find time to do things that we just enjoy. Video games are this for me.
Final
Thoughts
When
we step forward to follow our dreams and make our lives awesome discipline is a
big deal.
But
I do not believe that discipline is something that "some people just
have" and others don't. I believe, just like everything else, it is a
skill that can be developed over time.
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